EVERY ACTION HAS AN EQUAL AND OPPOSITE REACTION

....... " Every action has an equal and opposite reaction..." Newton's third law  of motion. In our lives it can be translated simply as every action has a reaction. As we go on with the business of living, we carry out many actions, some of which are well thought out, others are spur of the moment. Either way,we must realise that our actions will always elicit reactions.

The reactions can be  good, or bad . It is of utmost importance, that we endeavor to think before we act.  We may be able to control the way we act to a large extent.However, we should never allow ourselves live under the illusion, that we can control the response to our actions.

Every individual was created with his or her own mind. How  the individual minds develop is determined by a lot of factors. That not withstanding, each mind has its own perspective, as such, there are multiple perspectives out there in the world. So, when you act, remember you may think you  have "control", but, it just maybe  from your perspective.



........ "Every action has a reaction, everything we do or say has an effect".
                                                                                          -Heidi Ayarbe

HOW TO MEND A BROKEN HEART

As humans it is in our nature to connect with each other. From the moment we are conceived  right up to when we die. Some connections  are predetermined,as is with family.While other connections are established by choice, as is with friends and love interests. You can not make or maintain a connection without giving a part of yourself, and that  part is usually your heart. Your heart is your power house, literally and figuratively.

So, when any of these connections are severed for whatever reason, our heart, our power house, suffers and it hurts. Some people refuse to acknowledge the pain, while others let the pain overwhelm them. There is no right or wrong way to feel .What matters is you allow your power house mend, for if you do not, you will end up bitter and full of resentment.  You have to accept that there are no shortcuts, you can not boycott the pain. You may try to bury it, but as with all things buried, it can be unearthed. Your best bet is to face it,for it is only when you face it, that you can conquer it, and it is by conquering it, that you can truly heal.

If you want to mend your broken  heart,

• Acknowledge the pain, cry if you feel like it, tears can be wiped off 
• Be honest with yourself about why the connection was severed 
• Decide if and when you want to reestablish the connection
• Do not try to get even, or you'll end up being caught up in a vicious cycle of hate and hurt
• Accept that love is only enough when it is reciprocated, you cannot make someone love you if they don't  want to
• Do not wallow in self pity
• Mourn your loss but have no regrets
• Most importantly COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS, they are more than you think

Mending a broken heart doesn't happen overnight, it takes time and effort. But,it is well worth it, it will make you stronger, and wiser.



“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.”– Mark Twain

WHERE IS YOUR CENTRE?

Life can get a bit overwhelming at times, and it is for those times that you need to know where to find your centre. Your centre helps to keep you calm amidst the storm, and in tune with your inner-self.  When you’re in tune with yourself, you can drown out outside interference, or choose what frequency you listen to at will. This makes it easier for you to focus on achieving your goals and ambitions.

As we get on with the business of living, we sometimes drift away from our centre. We let our lives become defined by routines and deadlines.  We crowd our minds with so much worry, and fret over things we cannot control like when it’s going to rain. We forget worry does not make any situation better. We forget routines can be changed and deadlines extended. We forget that we are meant to live life with zest and vigour.

Let us never forget though that change is the only constant in nature. Do your best to prepare for these changes, or better still, make the necessary adjustments when they occur. If you get caught out in the rain seek shelter and wait it out. If you choose not to seek shelter and prefer to brave the rain and dry off at home, by all means do so. If you want to reduce your chances of being caught out in the rain, listen to the weather forecast, and do take your umbrella along.

 Bear in mind however, that the weather man does not control mother nature. You may end up carrying an umbrella on a cloudy day, or even if it does rain, your umbrella may not hold up and can get swept off in the rain.  If you want to know where to find your centre, begin by asking; WHO AM I? AND WHAT DO I WANT FROM LIFE? As you attempt to answer these questions, you are already half way there. GOODLUCK!!!!

..........“Truly being authentic is knowing what matters to you, on the deepest level of who you are, and committing always to act from that authentic center.” 

― Richie Norton