THE SWEETEST REVENGE.........

Revenge they say is a dish best served cold, do you agree? Have you ever felt so wronged that you find yourself dedicating time to plotting on how to get even? You want to get even because you are convinced it will right the wrong, or at least make you feel better, right? Did you go through with it? Did it make you feel better? Did it right the wrong?

It has been said ....."success is the sweetest revenge," now, that is worth dedicating time and effort to. If you are convinced you have been wronged, dedicate time to making things right for yourself. Concentrate on discovering the better you. Do not waste precious time and effort on a person or people who do not deserve it, they are mere distractions.

 Let nature do her thing, what goes around does eventually come around. You are fabulous, so live your life on your terms. Do not live as though you have something to prove, unless it is to yourself .




...... "How people treat you is their Karma; how you react is yours"

Wayne Dyer

ALL THE THINGS I HAVE............

Life happens, this is as sure as eggs. And yes, we all are running in the LIFE MARATHON. We got signed up for it the moment we were born. As with every sport that tests your  endurance, you need to stay hydrated, or you will be worst for wear, and that wouldn't help your chances of reaching the finish line, now would it?

 In the life marathon we chase after more money ,success, fame,  dream car/ house, or whatever luxuries we fancy. Sometimes we get so caught up  in the chase for WHAT WE WANT  that we do not pause to APPRECIATE  WHAT WE HAVE. This can be very detrimental to us, because, taking a  pause to appreciate what we have, is how we stay hydrated.  Being ambitious is a good thing, but you need to BE ALIVE to reap its rewards. I mean it's all about winning the prize or should I say prizes, right?

So, need I say more? STAY HYDRATED, APPRECIATE WHAT YOU HAVE, and stay in the race. Good luck to you!!!!


“.........Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough” 
                                                                    ― Oprah Winfrey

THE VERY FIRST TIME......

A first experience is like discovering a new route to your favorite spot. You may take it again, because it saves you time. You may never take it again because, it takes you longer to get to your destination. On the other hand, you may decide to take it occasionally . But  try as may, you cannot 

honestly say,  " I have never taken this route before", it will never be new to you again.

Our first experiences  may evoke fond memories or not, but they are not always totally forgotten. Why do you think? Is it because of the feelings of expectation, and sometimes anxiety that precede them? Or perhaps it is the excitement that comes from exploring the unknown? 

Some people get so caught up in trying to recapture the "magic " they are convinced happened  the first time. They fail to realize, that in order to do that, they need a time machine. Hopefully a time machine will take them back to that exact moment, impossible? At best, it can only be LIKE the first time, a comparison, It can never be the FIRST time.

So, instead of spending all that time and effort  on a comparison, why don't you invest in that unique 2nd, 3rd, 4th.. or even  1 millionth time experience?  

....... "No one can possibly know what is about to happen: it is happening, each time, for the first time, for the only time".

                                James A. Baldwin

EVERY ACTION HAS AN EQUAL AND OPPOSITE REACTION

....... " Every action has an equal and opposite reaction..." Newton's third law  of motion. In our lives it can be translated simply as every action has a reaction. As we go on with the business of living, we carry out many actions, some of which are well thought out, others are spur of the moment. Either way,we must realise that our actions will always elicit reactions.

The reactions can be  good, or bad . It is of utmost importance, that we endeavor to think before we act.  We may be able to control the way we act to a large extent.However, we should never allow ourselves live under the illusion, that we can control the response to our actions.

Every individual was created with his or her own mind. How  the individual minds develop is determined by a lot of factors. That not withstanding, each mind has its own perspective, as such, there are multiple perspectives out there in the world. So, when you act, remember you may think you  have "control", but, it just maybe  from your perspective.



........ "Every action has a reaction, everything we do or say has an effect".
                                                                                          -Heidi Ayarbe

HOW TO MEND A BROKEN HEART

As humans it is in our nature to connect with each other. From the moment we are conceived  right up to when we die. Some connections  are predetermined,as is with family.While other connections are established by choice, as is with friends and love interests. You can not make or maintain a connection without giving a part of yourself, and that  part is usually your heart. Your heart is your power house, literally and figuratively.

So, when any of these connections are severed for whatever reason, our heart, our power house, suffers and it hurts. Some people refuse to acknowledge the pain, while others let the pain overwhelm them. There is no right or wrong way to feel .What matters is you allow your power house mend, for if you do not, you will end up bitter and full of resentment.  You have to accept that there are no shortcuts, you can not boycott the pain. You may try to bury it, but as with all things buried, it can be unearthed. Your best bet is to face it,for it is only when you face it, that you can conquer it, and it is by conquering it, that you can truly heal.

If you want to mend your broken  heart,

• Acknowledge the pain, cry if you feel like it, tears can be wiped off 
• Be honest with yourself about why the connection was severed 
• Decide if and when you want to reestablish the connection
• Do not try to get even, or you'll end up being caught up in a vicious cycle of hate and hurt
• Accept that love is only enough when it is reciprocated, you cannot make someone love you if they don't  want to
• Do not wallow in self pity
• Mourn your loss but have no regrets
• Most importantly COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS, they are more than you think

Mending a broken heart doesn't happen overnight, it takes time and effort. But,it is well worth it, it will make you stronger, and wiser.



“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.”– Mark Twain

WHERE IS YOUR CENTRE?

Life can get a bit overwhelming at times, and it is for those times that you need to know where to find your centre. Your centre helps to keep you calm amidst the storm, and in tune with your inner-self.  When you’re in tune with yourself, you can drown out outside interference, or choose what frequency you listen to at will. This makes it easier for you to focus on achieving your goals and ambitions.

As we get on with the business of living, we sometimes drift away from our centre. We let our lives become defined by routines and deadlines.  We crowd our minds with so much worry, and fret over things we cannot control like when it’s going to rain. We forget worry does not make any situation better. We forget routines can be changed and deadlines extended. We forget that we are meant to live life with zest and vigour.

Let us never forget though that change is the only constant in nature. Do your best to prepare for these changes, or better still, make the necessary adjustments when they occur. If you get caught out in the rain seek shelter and wait it out. If you choose not to seek shelter and prefer to brave the rain and dry off at home, by all means do so. If you want to reduce your chances of being caught out in the rain, listen to the weather forecast, and do take your umbrella along.

 Bear in mind however, that the weather man does not control mother nature. You may end up carrying an umbrella on a cloudy day, or even if it does rain, your umbrella may not hold up and can get swept off in the rain.  If you want to know where to find your centre, begin by asking; WHO AM I? AND WHAT DO I WANT FROM LIFE? As you attempt to answer these questions, you are already half way there. GOODLUCK!!!!

..........“Truly being authentic is knowing what matters to you, on the deepest level of who you are, and committing always to act from that authentic center.” 

― Richie Norton

JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER ? DON'T!!!!

Truth be told we live in a very superficial world that being said however, if you want to live and enjoy life in its fullness you must learn how to look beyond the "book covers". Nature provides us with many gifts some gifts we cannot see but our lives depend on like the air we breathe, some lie in plain sight for instance the soil which we till for food and others we need to search for like crude oil which drives the world economy.

Have you ever wondered how the precious stones and metals used to make those expensive jewellery, luxury cars and breath taking buildings are found?  More often than not, they are dug and drilled for in the most unlikely places, places that do not fit the description, “aesthetically pleasing”. What you see in the shops are finished products. They have undergone some form of refinement, and have been put on display in an attractive way for you to appreciate and make you want to spend your money.

So how then can you tell who a person is or what they can or cannot do simply by looking at them? Judging them before interacting with them? Doing this depicts you as being shallow if not ignorant. Although there is no foolproof way of completely “knowing” someone but you should accord them with respect until they give you a reason to do otherwise.

Never forget that life hosts numerous competitions in which we participate either by choice or necessity. So if you’ll rather be the ‘’superficial ignorant contestant”, suit yourself.  But remember there are many “dark horses” out there. They will go on to win grand prizes and you, consolation ones, if you are that lucky that is.

 Keeping an open-mind has many rewards,trust me, I know.......

………… “Things are not always as they seem the first appearance deceives many”-  Phaedrus