Derived from the latin word 'gravis'. Grief describes our response to loss as humans. It could the loss of someone or something very dear to us. The Kübler-Ross model identify's the stages of grief as ' denial', 'anger', 'bargaining', 'depression' and 'acceptance'.
Personally my experience of grief was a multi-faceted one. It was for the loss of my father. First came 'bargaining' , 'denial', 'depression', 'anger' then finally 'acceptance'.
I felt an overwhelming sense of hopelessness which stemmed mostly from the realisation I was never going to see him again.
As humans we form bonds with other people or things and suffer when these bonds are 'severed' particularly when it is permanent as is the case with death. I have come to accept that time does indeed 'heal' all wounds. There may be some scarring which serves as a reminder but the pain does diminish with time just as a physical wound.
It is OK to cry when you hurt, cherish the memories you have of them and through the tears never forget LIFE IS A GIFT, each new dawn is brimming with opportunities find them and make them YOURS.
GRIEF
1)No one can bear it for you
2) Allow yourself feel the hurt but do not try to hurt yourself or others
3) Accept condolences but do not wallow in self pity
4) The manner and length of time you choose to grieve is personal
5) Establish your boundaries ,do not alienate people who offer you support
6) Do not feel guilty when you begin to heal
7)Cherish the memories you've shared
8) Empathise with others who grieve
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